Settling Down, Discovering Lots of New Things

We’ve been in Nashville as a family for just a little over one week now. Coco’s jetlag is fading away. Mine still shows in bits and pieces as I wake up at 3 in the morning. Charina’s still shows a bit, but she and Coco are getting along just fine in our apartment. We’re settling down for sure. The house is all tidy now. We still need quite a few things like an oven toaster, but our Sola promised to give us one. Yay! And we also got a nice Welcome Rug that screams a loud Southern “Hey y’all” for any visitor that will come a-knocking soon, thanks to my colleague Lee Ann. Last Saturday, we went to the playground at Charlie Daniel’s Park in Mt. Juliet. And boy, Coco loved every single bit of it! Too bad it rained later in the afternoon.

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I Still Suck at Goodbyes…

As a Pastor’s Kid, I am no stranger to goodbyes. As a five-year old boy, I remember saying goodbye to neighbors and playmates in Dasmarinas, Cavite as my father graduated from the Union Theological Seminary and we moved back to our province in Isabela. I can no longer remember the names of my playmates and our neighbors then. Since then, I’ve experienced constant moving–from one church parsonage to another, from one set of playmates and neighbors to new ones every two years or so.

I don’t really have childhood friends that I still hangout with today. They’ve all been relegated to the dustbins of my past movings, almost forgotten except for the occasional remembrance and passing glance at Facebook. Though we may chat every now and then online, it’s just not the same, we feel the weight of the distant years between us.

My wife, though, has two bestfriends that have stuck with her since Grade School. Last week, they got together for dinner, together with the kids that they now have. Sometimes I wonder what that is like–having a friend who knows you inside out, who could remember every single embarrassing moment of your life, and who would know just by a single glance what you think and how you feel.

But such indulgence isn’t really available for a lot of us, Pastor’s Kids.

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I Said I Won’t Go Abroad to Work, but I was Wrong…

Going abroad for work didn’t appeal to me at all. It might have been some vague nationalist-idealistic bug that bit me in College. After graduation, I even thought that I’ll go back to our province and stay there for the greater good.

Neither did I entertain the prospect of working for a “mere call center” as I derisively called it on my graduation day in April 2003. As I told in a blog post, I ended up eating my words and worked for a call center between 2005 and 2006. It seems that wasn’t the last time I was wrong.

This May 2015, I will join the throng of almost 12 Million Filipinos working abroad. I’m going to Nashville, Tennessee, in the United States.

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You could say that an opportunity presented itself and I just couldn’t resist but apply for the position. You see, I’ve been working as the Philippine Staff of Young People’s Ministries, a United Methodist Church agency, which is based in Nashville. But I loved my job! It allowed me to serve a lot of young people within our church and even in the society. I got to interact with awesome youth and young adult leaders, plus youth workers all over the Philippines. I also made several friends as a result of the ministries I pursued.

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Video Blog: “Boring Ba ang Bible Mo?” by Rei Lemuel Crizaldo

Sa episode ng Pinoy Youth Video Blog na ito, I talk about one of the most interesting books for Filipino young people na lumabas noong 2014. This is “Boring Ba ang Bible Mo?” by my good friend Rei Lemuel Crizaldo. This is a book about the Bible presented in an interesting way. It is character-driven at pinapakita nito yung mga adventures at misadventures ng mga iba’t ibang characters from the Bible. Continue reading “Video Blog: “Boring Ba ang Bible Mo?” by Rei Lemuel Crizaldo”

UMC Campus Ministry Part 5: Monitoring, Sustaining, & Evaluating

Hello friends, in the past couple of weeks, I’ve posted several thoughts on youth and young adult ministries of the United Methodist Church in the Philippines. One of my posts that received attention is on campus ministry. That’s why I am posting here the model and concept paper that I have prepared over the past few months. If you want to implement this, please go ahead. Just give credit where credit is due. Thanks!

This is the Part 5 of a 6-part Series.

Please read the previous posts:
Introduction
Part 1: Training of Campus Missionaries
Part 2: Partner Development and Support Raising
Part 3: Development of Resources
Part 4: Deployment to the Campus

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UMC Campus Ministry Part 4: Deployment to the Campus

Hello friends, in the past couple of weeks, I’ve posted several thoughts on youth and young adult ministries of the United Methodist Church in the Philippines. One of my posts that received attention is on campus ministry. That’s why I am posting here the model and concept paper that I have prepared over the past few months. If you want to implement this, please go ahead. Just give credit where credit is due. Thanks!

This is the Part 4 of a 6-part Series.

Please read the previous posts:
Introduction
Part 1: Training of Campus Missionaries
Part 2: Partner Development and Support Raising
Part 3: Development of Resources

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UMC Campus Ministry Part 3: Development of Resource Materials for the Actual Campus Ministry

Hello friends, in the past couple of weeks, I’ve posted several thoughts on youth and young adult ministries of the United Methodist Church in the Philippines. One of my posts that received attention is on campus ministry. That’s why I am posting here the model and concept paper that I have prepared over the past few months. If you want to implement this, please go ahead. Just give credit where credit is due. Thanks!

This is the Part 3 of a 6-part Series.

Please read the previous posts:
Introduction
Part 1: Training of Campus Missionaries
Part 2: Partner Development and Support Raising

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Chapter 7: Iwasan ang Kryptonite Study Guide

Pagkatapos mong basahin ang libro, it’s time to go deeper para ma-apply sa buhay mo ang mga leadership lessons mula sa buhay ng mga Super Heroes coupled with biblical principles.

Introduction

Ano ang kahinaan mo? Are you aware of it?
Ano ba ang mga madalas na temptation na nagpapabagsak sa mga kabataan ngayon?
Ano-ano ang mga consequences ng pagbagsak ng integrity at character ng isang lider kabataan?

Chapter Summary

Maraming mga kabataang lider ang bumabagsak dahil sa tatlong bagay: Power, Sex, & Money.

How to protect yourself and maintain your integrity and character:

  • Be accountable
  • Set clear expectations
  • Be transparent

Read

1 Timothy 4:12 (NLT): “Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.”

#SuperKuwento

Go to Chapter 7 of “#SuperEpic” and look at the story of Tom. Ano kaya ang dapat ginawa ni Tom upang maiwasan ang maling paggamit ng money ng organization?

Questions for Reflection and Discussion

  • How important is integrity and character in our world today?
  • May iba pa bang Kryptonite ang mga kabataang lider ngayon na nakikita mo?
  • How can you avoid the temptation of sex, money, and power?
  • If somebody fell down dahil sa tatlong kryptonite na ito, how can he or she be restored and redeemed?

Lipad Na!

Next week, talk to at least two friends or mentors na puwedeng maging accountability partner mo as you seek to follow God and take on a leadership position.

Resources: Videos

Here’s an excellent video that reminds us about the importance of character and integrity.

 

Here’s another video that’s focused on Integrity in the Philippines:

Chapter 6: Smash the Problem, Not the People Study Guide

Pagkatapos mong basahin ang libro, it’s time to go deeper para ma-apply sa buhay mo ang mga leadership lessons mula sa buhay ng mga Super Heroes coupled with biblical principles.

Introduction

When was the last time na nagkaroon ka ng katampuhan? What caused it? Paano nyo na-resolve ito?
If you build a team, magkakaroon at magkakaroon iyan ng conflict. No doubt about it.
Do you remember the last time na nagalit ka? How do did you handle it? Anong nangyari?

Chapter Summary

Conflict is inevitable.Puwede itong manggaling sa Task, Relationships, and Processes.
People tend to use two strategies in managing conflict: The Hulk Approach or The Deadma Approach. Neither of these approaches is the best.

Ways to deal with conflict within the team:

  • Understand what the conflict really is.
  • Communicate intentionally
  • Walang personalan kahit may argument.
  • Respect!
  • Be honest.
  • Look for solutions
  • Know when to walk away.

Use conflict to grow.

Read

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV): “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Questions for Reflection and Discussion

  • Dapat bang iwasan LAHAT ng uri ng conflict?
  • How can you remind yourself to keep calm even in the midst of conflict?
  • Ano-ano ba ang mga bagay na puwedeng panggalingan ng conflict sa iyo?
  • Ano ang kailangan mong gawin para maging mas maayos ang paghandle mo sa conflict?
  • What are the consequences if hindi ninyo naayos ang conflict? How do you prevent that from happening?

Resource: Video

Kung gusto nyo ng more resources on conflict management, panoorin ang sumusunod na TED Talk.

Chapter 5: Assemble Your Team Study Guide

Pagkatapos mong basahin ang libro, it’s time to go deeper para ma-apply sa buhay mo ang mga leadership lessons mula sa buhay ng mga Super Heroes coupled with biblical principles.

Introduction

Nasubukan mo na bang maglaro ng basketball? Nakikita mo ba how the team plays at ang role ng iba’t ibang players?
If you know a Basketball Coach, interviewhin at kausapin mo kung paano niya ginagamit ang skills ng bawat isang member ng team.
Nakapanood ka na ba ng concert ng isang banda? Napansin mo ba kung gaano karami ang performers at ang mga tao na nasa “behind-the-scenes?

Chapter Summary

If you have a vision, you need other people to implement it.

Sabi ni Margaret Mead:

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world.”

Sometimes, being a leader means working behind the scenes, kagaya na lang ni Nick Fury, ang mastermind ng The Avengers Initiative.

The Six (6) People you need in your team:

  • The Mastermind
  • The Cheerleader
  • The Skeptic
  • The Director
  • The Mentor
  • The Connector

Hindi madaling hanapin ang mga taong ito pero may mga iba’t ibang paraan para mahanap mo sila.

Questions for Reflection and Discussion

  • May mga naiisip ka ba na puwedeng maging members ng team mo?
  • Doon sa 6 roles in the team, alin ang pinaka-applicable sa iyo? Ano ang nakikita mong role?
  • Paano mo mahahanap ang mga puwedeng maging members ng iyong team?
  • How can you become a part of a team na binubuo ng isang leader? Puwede rin namang existing na yung team.

Lipad Na!

Next week, to apply what you learned in this chapter, look for an organization, or a team, or any project to volunteer your time and your energy. Observe mo na rin how the team works.

Resources: Videos

Nick Fury Recruiting Tony Stark for the Avengers Initiative

Nick Fury Recruits Iron Man, who meets the Black Widow